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Adoption Community Information
| Adoption and Foster Care Reform |
Date Posted: 01-17-2009 at 09:05 AM |
Mood:  During our time of talking about should we or shouldn't we adopt we started geting interested in reform for adoption and foster care. We hadn't automatically decided to adopt we had also thought for a short time that foster care might b for us. This led onto us wanting to do our own research rather than get social services 'take' on the system. One of my dad's cousin's and his wife had two sons before adopting from Africa and Malaysia. This was back in the 1960's so it was completely different to how it is now and something I really didn't think about as I was young. I also went to school with a girl who was adopted but I didn't know till I was 17. We have also known a few foster carers over the years. Through the internet we have found out about various sites relevant to adoption in general, forced adoption, justice for mothers and/or fathers and sites that give parents good legal advice and how to work with social workers to keep families together. There are times that I agree that it is in the child's best interest to be removed from their families and too regularly I read of children dying at the hands of a parent, family member, partner or friend. This is why we finally decided older child adoption was best for us as we really care that every child has a right to a loving, caring home. We had a friend who was a carer in two children care homes so got to know some of these kids. Considering what many had been through they just wanted to be loved for who they were and respected our friend cared about them as individuals. Sadly he committed suicide ... we should have seen the signs as he bought his son down to see us (he was living with us) then made a point of staying with his mother overnight followed by seeing his sister. He had split from his girlfriend, let her and their son stay in the house he bought then she moved her new boyfriend in. It took us a long time to forgive ourselves for not realizing. So how we feel about adoption is that it has it's place, same as foster care but both need reforms so the system is much better than it is now. |
| Busy, busy,..... |
Date Posted: 01-22-2009 at 09:18 AM |
Mood:  Unbelievable after sorting out paperwork for one adoption agency who took forever to get their backsides into action another one (approached three - third one we don't want to go through) finally sent a letter asking us to ring up. We will by tomorrow and then make a final decision whether to stick with the other one or to go through this other one. The first one takes about 8 months to get a decision whether we can adopt through them or not then however long it takes from then to get a placement. We got a bit delayed as we have been helping a couple with finding out their rights to get their grandchildren out of foster care. I can understand why they were removed from their mother as she is a drug addict but I cannot understand why ss wont let them have the children as they have a nice home and their other children don't have any 'habits' that would be detrimental to the grandchildren. |
| Funny how life .... |
Date Posted: 02-18-2009 at 05:04 PM |
Mood:  .... has a way of chucking unexpected things at you. There was us thinking it would be at least a year realistically before we got a match. We aren't the average pap in fact we're quite unconventional as we are pro reform, pro keeping familes together and will put ourselves out on a limb for parents. On the other hand when children are at risk then we agree that adoption is the best option. Social services like us anyway as we are keen to be educated so it is a start to make them be seen in a better light as they are showing willing to work with families even if it means children being removed for their own safety. The sw we have contact with keep working with birth families so if their children make contact when they are old enough they can see their parents have made an effort to change their lifestyles. |
 Recent Comments: |
| Re: Starting the process |
By angelgurl_72(01-16-2009 at 09:35 AM) |
| I wish you all the luck in the world! I was adoptee and it's hard for me till this day. Having a loving mom who wanted me and still wants me today is the best I ever had! |
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