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| Let the waiting begin!! |
Date Posted: 10-29-2006 at 08:47 AM |
| Our meeting with the director of CC went really well. We were impressed that she was willing to answer all of our questions, especially since it was a Friday afternoon and she probably could have gotten a lot of work done in the time that we were there. I have to admit that I was surprised that they don't place very many babies each year (20-25), but to their credit, there are literally dozens of agencies in this state. Maybe that's not a small number, but either way, we really love the staff, and are willing to stick it out for the long haul. She maintained that as an interracial couple we're highly desired by potential birthmothers who are carrying biracial children. DH and I laughed that finally somebody else sees also a benefit to our "mixed marriage." (Actually, we have had overwhelming support of our marriage, with exception of 2 relatives- one from each side of our family). I really believe that God speaks to us in so many different ways, and that we really have to be open to hearing what He has to say. At first, DH couldn't understand why I would schedule a meeting when we are still so far from being able to submit our application (we have to wait until April, when we've been married for 2 years). Granted, we could have easily sent our questions by e-mail, but I just had a need to drive 60 miles to see the director. Boy, were we glad when she said that the fees were going to increase next week, but that since we've been so active in pursing this adoption, she'd let us submit our application under the current fee schedule, which will be a savings of >$6000!!! She might have made the same offer if we hadn't been sitting there, but who knows? Also, when I posted a thread to find out which questions we should ask, one of the readers specifically recommended asking if the fees were subject to change. I am just going to keep trusting my feelings. The hardest part about all of this is still waiting for another 5 months before our application can be activated. We understand that there are rules that have to be followed, but for me, I hate to wait. This morning, DH said that this will be the hardest waiting game of our lives, and I agree. Knowing him, he'll take this whole winter wait in stride, while I count down the minutes. Actually, the holidays are coming, and if I just skip from Halloween, to Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's, Groundhog day, to Easter, it will be here before I know it, right? We'll just focus on doing all of the things that we won't be able to do so easily once dear baby finally arrives. |
| So much closer!!! |
Date Posted: 02-13-2007 at 06:52 PM |
Mood:  Last week I sent an email to our agency's director, reminding her that we'll meet the length of marriage requirement in April. She sent back a message stating that we can start our process next month!!! Wow- we weren't expecting that. Today we got a message from the woman who has been assigned to be our social worker. She wants to meet with us next month for an intake interview (whatever that is). After that, we'll be meeting with the director again to review documentation. Finally!!! |
| March comes in like a lion... |
Date Posted: 02-25-2007 at 03:18 PM |
| So, here we are at the end of February, and I am starting to get nervous about what next month will bring. March 3, 2007- DH is taking his subject teaching exam for full certification. Let's keep our fingers crossed that he will do well. Of course he will, he's an awesome teacher (just a little out of practice with standardized tests). March 9- I should get my results from my medical licensing exam. Keep those fingers crossed. After being in school for the past 3 decades, I'm ready to say goodbye to formal education, and just practice medicine because I love it (and not for a grade or to impress the attendings). I wish residency were as sexy as "Gray's Anatomy" and "ER," but most days, it just feels like "Scrubs." Wish me luck. March 15- We have our intake interview scheduled with our social worker (the one that will be doing our homestudy). I still don't have a clue what that means, especially since we've already spent 5+ hours with the agency director. Our application has been idling since October, but now they'll cash the check. We are sooo excited about this. Finally, a green light to go! March 22- We'll meet with the director again, this time to review documentation, and who knows what else... March 25- We've been asked to speak to the teens at church about the sacrament of marriage. All I can do is talk about how much we've had to rely on each other and God to get through these past months. Hopefully, they'll find something meaningful in what we have to share. MARCH 27- I will be having a hysterectomy. I am so relieved that this will be done before I have any really significant problems (other than essentially being 5 months pregnant for the past year). Hopefully my dad will be well enough that mom can come to help me out for the first week, while DH is at school. Pray for us.... Well, at least with everything that is going on, I don't really have enough time or energy to obsess about any one specific thing. |
| Tomorrow, already? |
Date Posted: 03-14-2007 at 02:44 PM |
Mood: I can't believe that we are having our intake interview tomorrow. We have had such a busy month, and our plates are full, but still spinning. So far, I have PASSED my board exam (Yipee), and DH and I have given the first of 2 talks at church. My dad is still in the hospital, with some serious medical concerns, but we've not yet figured out what's going on with him. (I can't be a daughter and a doctor simultaneously, but I'm trying) My surgery is only 1 1/2 weeks away, but I don't have time to think about it. So, I admit that I am a little bit anxious about this meeting tomorrow. DH and I have been wondering what types of questions we might be asked, and have decided that all we can do is 'just be ourselves.' Wish us luck... |
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| Re: On and on and on and on |
By richmonder(08-07-2009 at 06:57 PM) |
| I know how you feel. Our agency was recommended highly and they have only had one birthmother since January. Every time we talk to them, the avg wait time increases. I have contacted about 15 other agencies and have come to the conclusion that they are more concerned about bleeding every cent out of you that they can. I mean so far as wanting us to pay for a whole new homestudy even though ours is only 6 months old or charging thousands for advertisement. Of course all the other of thousands of fees they throw at us are nonrefundable. I am completely discouraged at this point. I feel your pain and hope that you have better luck than we are having...we are going on over 6 months of waiting. |
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