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Date Posted: 06-13-2006 at 10:31 AM |
| This may be a little out of order..but I thought I should write about how we came to this point in our story. My husband and I were married in Sept of 1994. We had always talked about adoption as an option for having or adding to a family. Then in 2/99 we had our first biological child, our son Will. It had taken us over a year to get pregnant with him so obviouly that lended to more adoption disscusions. Then in 3/01 we had our bio daughter Brooke. About 3 months later my we were talking about when my husband should get a vasectomy. Brooke was not an easy baby. When Raymond had his "procedure" 3/03, and we felt confident that we were at the end of adding to our family..2 was enough. But we still knew that if we ever changed our minds..we could adopt. I would look online at info from time to time. Trying to think about where I would want to adopt from if we ever wanted to. I watched "Adoption Story" on TLC. As I looked I liked Korea more and more. About a year ago I started to get the bug...you know the one...."the baby bug". Going back and forth...wishing Raymond had never had his "procedure" but then at the end of the month going "what was I thinking" we don't need anymore kids. As the year has gone on it stayed with me more and more "I want another baby". And Raymond was there with me too. But he never regreted his "procedure", he always said he would rather adopt than have me pregnant again. Then about a month ago there was an adoption information meeting at our church. We went. I went really to show Raymond that we could not afford it. But came out a totally different person. As we talked about all that we heard and what we thought about it all on our 30 min drive home...we started relating everything to how it would effect our family. Well the kids are 7 & 5 and if it takes a year they will be 8 & 6 and we don't want more kids too far apart...ect...if this, then that kind of things. And by the time we got home and got out of the van, I said "Did we just decied to adopt a baby?" And Raymond said "Yea, I think so." And here we are. Country chosen, agency chosen, application filled out and in the mail. |
| got the 1st call |
Date Posted: 06-16-2006 at 05:33 AM |
| Well we got a call yesterday the the agency got our application. Of course the director of the Korea program is on vacation. She will be calling us next week to make an appointment for the interview. We are really hoping that we can get up there (3 hours each way) to meet with her sometime next week. I am taking the kids to see family for 2 weeks after that, and I would hate to wait til I get back for the meeting. Maybe I should just call her on Monday? Why am I in such a hurry? It's not like the crib has an exporation date on it. I am not waiting to be a mother, I have 2 bio kids already. I don't know I just feel this push to get this all done. I know there are sooo many steps and I just want to keep moving forward. I also think I feel this pull that my baby is coming (I'm nesting). I don't know if he born yet or not,or if he is even a he yet, but he is coming and he is counting on me to get him home. |
| Now I know why |
Date Posted: 06-19-2006 at 12:38 PM |
| Okay, now I know why I am in such a hurry to get this adoption thing done. I WANT ANOTHER BABY! Tada! We were with some of our friends this weekend and they have kids the same ages as ours and they just had a baby about 2 months ago. And after spending 2 full days with them, it came to me..." I want our baby" That is why I am in such a hurry, I want our family to grow. That is why we are adopting. We are not triing to do some noble or "wonderful" thing and "save" a child. We want another child to raise and love and snuggle and feed and change and get up with at night and all of those things. I just want another one. It's great that there are children that need a home and we can fill that need, but truthfully, the driving force for why we are adopting is selfish, we just want another baby. I know this is why Raymond and I felt so strongly that he should have his "procedure" when he did. This is God's plan for our family. And if we had not followed our hearts, we would have gotton pregnant again, truly it would have been easier. But now our desire for another child is so strong and this is the way we are suppose to add to our family. Our baby, the one God has created for us, is probably getting ready to be born right now. And I know we are going to get the baby that is meant to be ours. |
| Going on vacation |
Date Posted: 06-23-2006 at 11:04 AM |
| I am trying to get ready to go on vacation for 2 weeks. I do this every summer. I live in VA and I am going to my sister's in MI. 14 hour drive, just me and the kids. And actually that dose not scare me (I have done that before) it is the drive home I am worried about. On the way home I am picking up my neighbor, her 3 boys and a cat...now that is a scary drive. So while trying to pack, do laundry, and take care of the kids and house, we were also trying to go up to the adoption agency's main office for our intake interview. That finally came to a head on Wed. The director got back from her vacation and we were able to talk to her. The agency wants us to wait about a month for the interview. To give my husband time to lose weight. He is over the Korean weight limit by about 30 lbs. But atleast we have a date set for the interview and a plan of how to go forward. For a while on Wednesday it was very vauge about how to move on with this process and I was freaking out. So we will be heading up to the interview on 7/19. And we will go from there. The director says things are moving very fast right now so they just don't want to start the process unless all of our ducks are in a row. So I am very interested to see how fast "fast" is. She also gave me a list of things I can be getting together and doing before our interview, that helps alot with the waiting. So I will have plenty to focus on when I get back. I will try to write some while I'm in MI. But I don't know if there will be much to tell. |
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