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Adoption Community Information
| where to begin |
Date Posted: 06-13-2006 at 08:49 PM |
| Well I guess I will start with what I know about my birth and up until I was adopted. My bparents had been married briefly but were divorced when I was concieved. Bdad had already been married once, divorced and married my bmom then after they divorced, he remarried rather quickly. Bmom did not make bdad aware of me. She went on to marry 18 months after my birth to the man she is currently married to for 43 years and they had two sons. She stayed at Flo Crit until time to have me and was taken to a nearby hospital because I was early. I was born weighing 3 # 11.5 oz. There had been a girl previously born to bmom the year before but the baby died. That one also was born early due to bmom being in a car accident. The baby girl died two days later. I always knew there was a previous baby that died but didn't know any particulars past that. I was able to get my hospital birth records last year which explained that the baby died two days later after birth. It was when my CI told me about it that the baby was a girl. It made me sad. Sad to know that I had a full female sibling that did not survive. Anyway, after my birth and being in the hospital two weeks I then went back to Flo Crit for another two weeks. After bmom signed the papers, I was released to Catholic Charities. Catholic Charities placed me in the Infant of Prague nursery. In spite of being born a premie with low birth weight, I was thriving, gaining weight, reflexes were good for the first month. I had battled an eye infection, E. Coli but got over that. My reflexes such as sucking, finger grasp were good, my getting rid of wastes was good and normal. But I took a turn for the worse, I quit eating, became nonresponsive a lot of the time. Things weren't stimulating me without major prodding. I was getting behind mentally and physically for my age. They found that I had something wrong with my heart but thought it was a hole in my heart but not serious enough to warrant surgery at that time and possibly not ever. They were puzzled as to why I wasn't growing the rate that a baby normally grows mentally and physically. They decided I was a mongoloid, check my chromosomes and the pairs were normal. I was in and out of the hospital several times the first 18 months. I began to wither away, dying. Doctors told CC that they had better hurry up and place me because I was fading fast. My aparents started out being my foster parents when I was 18 months old and adopted me at 32 months old. And this is just the beginning of my story which I will save for future entries. |
| on with my story |
Date Posted: 06-24-2006 at 12:52 PM |
| So after my aparents took me in as foster parents, within a few months I was putting on weight and had quit knocking at death's door. Catholic Charities approached them about adopting me. My amom always said that they weren't planning to adopt, but after talking it over they decided to. They went through the home study. At 32 months old, I was adopted. At this time we were in Denver, Colorado. My afather was career military. There were a couple of places he was stationed at and then he retired. Upon his retirement, we came to Arkansas where they were from. |
| continuing |
Date Posted: 06-28-2006 at 06:45 PM |
| So, we came to Little Rock, Arkansas and settled. Life was pretty good until I was 8 years old. My memory isn't the greatest until I was a little older but here it goes. I do remember when I was about 8 years old suddenly my adad moved out. My amom was in a state of hysteria. It was just utter chaos. My aparents divorced. My adad remarried the woman he was running around with on amom. He was an alcoholic and had hit the bottle. He was mean and abusive. He worked for the U.S. Post Office and met the woman that became his wife there. I handled it the best I could. My adad had me every other weekend. He would take me to school on the following Monday. Alot of this is a blur now. I remember though making the best with my stepmother at that time and her children. She had a son close to my age and I enjoyed playing with him. We would ride bicycles together. She had at least one older teenage daughter and I enjoyed her, too. I slept with her on a waterbed I think when I stayed there on the weekends my adad got me. That lasted about 18 months. In the meantime, my amom hooked up with a taxi cab driver who she married. They fussed and fought just about every weekend. I don't think that they actually fought because he was not a violent man apparently. But every weekend just about they argued all weekend. During that time, I was getting tired of all of it and wanted my parents back together. I thought if they got back together we would be a family again and my life would be stable. But before that happened my amom and the stepfather divorced and then just lived together. The last thing I remember about the two of them together was an arguement and the police being called out. Her ex-husband left with a gun to his head. Anyway, my amom must have called my adad because he was there when the police got there. Don't remember anything else about that situation. Adad divorced his wife he took when he divorced my amom. Adad and amom remarried. |
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