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Adoption Community Information
| Another Day |
Date Posted: 01-29-2006 at 07:31 AM |
| G and I had a good day. He was great considring I had him running around town with his sister and mysef. He actually fell asleep while we carried him around walmart. Sis wa carring him in a baby bojurn (sp) he was hanging from the front of her and they both looked right pitiful. It was funny ow many people thought he was her child. She will be 16 in March and is somewhat tiny. She looks her age. But as I explained to her it isn't unheard of for a 16 year old to have a child. As sad as it is. I try to explain to her that when you have a child that is all you do... Just because my son is 18 and she is going to be 16 dosen't mean I never worry again or wonder if they are safe. I will do that the rest of my life. Reguardless of what age they are. There will never be a day that I don't think about all of them. Even when they leave home I will continue to wonder how they are what they are doing at that moment. The greatest thing I have ever done was be a mom to my children. That and marry my husband. He is a great guy. With out my dh I don't think I could have been a good mom much less enjoy it so much. I am an alcoholic and my dh saw me through that and took care of things while i was a mess and while i was in recovery. I have been sober now for 3 years and I can't imagin going back to that life. All the drama it entails too just is't for me not anymore. I lost some friend over quiting but they weren't really my friends anyway. More like drinking buddies once that was gone so were they. It is funny how much I wanted another child but while I was drinking I was in no shape to take care of a child much less myself. Once I was on the road to recovery and pretty much excepting what I had and loving it God gave me G. He is the greatest gift. Every minute with himis how that feels like this incrediable gift. On another note. G's old foster family are angry and I think it is time to terminate that relationship. In most cases once the child is placed the relationship is terminated in the best intrest of the child, but these people have g's half sister and brother and I agreeded to maintain a relationship for them and g. Not for the adults involved. It is just stressing. They had said they were coming to visit canceled at the last minute only to try to say they were going to come the next weekend. I went to see g's birthmom and I took him for a visit too. They were angry. The ex foster parents. See the birthmom and bf (my brother) signed off their rights so that my husband and I could adopt G. They have the other children and what her to sig off on them too but she won't. The situation is so different though. I can understand her point of view. These families are not too stable. The little girl lives with the aunt and great grandmother. The aunt is engaged but still living at hom with her mom. The aunt has one child of her own too. The great grandma is very quick to hit the little girl too. I took G to isit when I went to see his mom and in one hour she poped the babies hand 6 times. I feel so sorry for her. I worry that damage is being done to her mental state. I have never seen the brother he is 4 she is 2. The Grandmom has the 4 year old. she is ill and her marriage is fallin apart. So as you can see none of it is a stable lace for children to be. Plus the gm has a daughter and her 3 children living with them. I know as a person if I was being asked to give up my child because I wasn't what was good for them I woud have to make sure that the family I was leaving them with could be trusted and was going to provide love and stability to them for a lifetime. I know the birthmom is concerned over the fact that neither child is in a stale home. Both are in a situation where the family dynamics change daily. I wish I could do something for them but as I am not a relative and I live out of state there is nothing I can do but offer cmfort to g's birthmom. I talk to her daily and I encouage her to do only those things she is comfortable with. I guess that is why I am not too popular with these other families. They are angry at me because the birthmom won't sign the papers and I took g to visit her and they thought that was wrong. I live 2 states away and managed to take him to see her. they live 30 minutes from her and won't take the kids to see her. They say it isn't their responsbility. Well what does that say would happen if she was to allow them to adopt. I can truly understand where she is coming from. I just don't why I am the one they are angry with I have no control over the situation and I have said if they call they must keep it about G and how he is doing. I refuse to get involved with the rest. If they can't respect that then I won't allo the visits to continue.. Well G is about to wake up from his nap. Thoughts to everyone. God bless.... |
| Feeling Fustrated |
Date Posted: 01-29-2006 at 11:47 AM |
| Well I am just too torn about this I am sure... I still am upset about this fosterparent situation. I don't uderstand why G's foster family insists on being difficult... I agreeded to allow contact because of the BROTHER & SISTER... Not to allow these people to continue to parent my son... I find myself explaining things to them that are really none of their business. I totally support my son's birthmom emotionally. She is trying to clean up her act is in rehab and they continue to stress her out.. I think they are trying to push her to fail. Then I think about the children. These other two are of an age to notice things. I am afraid that the children are feeling like everyone is upset with them because they are mad at mommy. It is just an ugly situation. I think I am going to talk to my attorney and the social worker. I would like to still have communicaion reguarding the other children but I think the conversations should be limited to just that the children. I dn't understand their hanging onto G. He has a home now a permenate one and it would seem like they would understand how confusing this is going to be for G. I mean we are already going to seek consuling to learn the best way to make G comfortable with his adoption. I find myself explaining to these people why I let Gsmom call and visit. IT is vecause I am KEEPING MY WORD. I said I would always let her know how he was and visit and comunicate as long as she stays clean. I told them in the beginning they could visit and keep in touch I kept my word but know I don't feel like it is best with all this drama. God bless |
| Busy Yesterday |
Date Posted: 01-31-2006 at 08:59 AM |
I had soo much going on yesterday and feel like I got nothig accomplished. Sis came in and we went to lunch. Had mexican and ended up feeding G refried beans He loved them. I was afraid of gas but he slept all night so he was fine.. I will be so happy when he quits crying himself to sleep. He was out of the habit but he fell back into it on our trip last week. I know his foster family loved him but I wish they would have considered some of the habits they were establishing for him. I know they wanted to adopt him but I always let it be known I was going to petition the court for him if he was my nephew. It is a hard situation going through it and coming out on the otherside. I appericate how well they did take care of him and love him. Well I have to go. G is sleeping and I have chores to do. God Bless |
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