Well all those years ago when we figured out that if we wanted to be parents we should seriously look into adoption. We had NO idea that becoming foster adopt parents would be every part of the word chalenge. We were and have been challenged and sometimes heartbroken and stressed etc in our day to day activities and challenges faced by those of us with children whom do not form normal bonds and have what they call our two older children attachment issues.
We adopted our only daughter at age 9 she came to us as a foster child at age 7, gorgeous blond haired blue eyes and just cute as they come but Oh the anger and manipulative behavior of one so young. She has been our most difficult child to parent. And we cared for a total of 24 foster children ranging in ages from newborns to 17 year olds before at her request we stopped doing foster care.
Our next foster adopt child is our oldest son placed as a high risk foster adopt even though within two months his birthmom had relinqueshed him directly to us she refused to relinquish him to the state so it took them around another 2 years to get his adoption final what a crock we found a private placement of an unborn baby during our wait to finalize his adoption and actually the baby was born placed with us and finalized before we ever got to go to court to finalize the older sons adoption. Our privately adopted only infant placement was our birthmom found us thru an adoption ad in a local newspaper we live in Nebraska she called we met and as they say the rest is history she was awesome even blessed us with being at his birth and he came home a day later we do have an open adoption.
Our next child is now 5 our first biracial placement his birthmom has actually called us three times total to parent him but backed out the other times this last time she called us a year ago and asked if we would still consider raising him we said yes did alot of visits and he is now our son.
Has all this been easy? NO its down right hard emotionally etc I have gone from being a more out going person to not as outgoing and the times that our two older kids have run away from home sometimes for days or weeks at a time takes its toll.
More later take care and if your parenting a challenging child hang in their.
Our kids are now ages 25,19,15, and 5 |
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