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Adoption Community Information
| April 30, 2003 |
Date Posted: 03-01-2005 at 08:54 AM |
| Today Krissy and I went to the OB/GYN doctor to have what they call an IUI procedure. Basically what is happening is this. Krissy has taking some low dosages of some fertility medicine. Then the sperm is placed past passed the cervix by the doctor in the office. This generally enhances the chances of conception quite a bit. The doctor says we can try this procedure up to 6 times. Kristina and I have agreed to try this procedure 3 times before pursuing adoption. |
| May 2003 |
Date Posted: 03-01-2005 at 08:56 AM |
| Monday May 5, 2003 - After many discussion of the possibility of an upcoming pregnancy, we are hoping to know something before the Walk-4-Life in North Carolina. Krissy's Mom is a cancer survivor and this is a big event for her family. It is on May 18, 2003. May 8th is also Krissy's Mom's birthday. We are hoping that if we are pregnant, we can share it with the family during the Walk-4-Life. Though we know better than to get our hopes up, we can't help but anticipate a little and dream of what it would be like to be pregnant! Monday, May 12, 2003 - We are 13 days past the IUI procedure. This is when we should get an idea whether or not Krissy is pregnant. So far so good. Krissy and I keep reminding each other not to get our hopes up as we have been through this so many times before. It is so hard not to though since we have gone the extra step and had a 'medical procedure' done. We'll wait and see! Wednesday, May 14, 2003 - I can not describe to you the sadness of this day. My heart is shattered into a million pieces and then into a million more for the sadness of my sweet but sad wife. Just 2 days before we were hoping to share some sort of news with Krissy's family, we found out she was not pregnant. In all of the years I have known my wife through each of the 62 times before when we realized we were not pregnant, I have never seen my wife so heart broken. I am thankful to the Lord that we work so close together. She called me to come see something in the her office. As I walked into her office, her countenance was so sad and I knew something was dreadfully wrong. She handed me a slip of paper that simply said 'I am sorry I am not pregnant L'. The pain that she felt inside was also being weighed down by guilt that for some reason she was not able to conceive. With one look, rivers of sadness flowed from her brown eyes and I became overwhelmed with emotion. We left her office and sat in the courtyard at Liberty University for what seemed like hours. We finally decided to return home where Krissy curled up on the couch and wept all afternoon. We prayed and decided to forego anymore medical procedures and fully pursue an adoption of a child from Guatemala. Thursday, May 15, 2003 - We called our families last night and shared the news with them. Many tears were shed but many hopes were renewed as we shared our plans of adoption. This has been an option for us that we have discussed off and on. This idea is the only thing that brings a smile to the face of my Krissy. Thursday, May 23, 2003- Krissy and I have spent many hours searching for adoption agencies that serve Guatemala. We have asked our families for prayer. This is looking to be a very expensive venture. We figure the cost to be between $20,000 and $40,000. Monday, May 27, 2003 - Krissy and I decide to do as much as we can on our own. We are going to try and save money as in as many areas as possible. |
| June 2003 |
Date Posted: 03-01-2005 at 08:57 AM |
| June 8, 2003 - When talking with family today, the question came up about the name of our adopted baby. For quite some time, Kristina and I have been praying about whether we were seeking a boy or a girl. We have determined that we would like a girl. We are not close minded to adopting a boy. However, we truly feel there is a little girl in Guatemala that will be waiting for us when we come. Anyway, my nephew told us we should name our little girl 'Mia'. He laughed an walked away. He loves the game of soccer and anyone familiar with soccer in this day and age has heard of the famous Mia Hamm. Kristina and I both smiled as we loved the idea of naming her Mia. June 9, 2003 - Kristina and I have worked very hard to determine the many steps it takes to go through an international adoption. My very close friend, a missionary living in Guatemala, has spoken with me about not going through an adoption agency. This is a very scary proposition as it seems that the adoption agency would be the sure route. However, the more we talk and the more I pray about it, this seems to be the way God is leading. Our friend's wife is involved with an orphanage in Antigua. Through this orphanage, the missionary's contacts in the Guatemalan government, I believe that with God's help we will be able to save at least $18,000 in agency fees. This path needs to be bathed in a lot of prayer as we are not very knowledgeable about many ins and outs of the process. June 12, 2003 - While surfing the net today, Krissy came across a site that tells the "meaning" of the name Mia. The site also lists verses next to each name. This is what she found when searching the name Mia. http://www.homesteaddesigns.com/nresult.asp?iname=Mia (Address may no longer work last checked 12/15/04) Name Search Results... Name: Mia Meaning: Belonging to God Verse: But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31 Isaiah 40:31 has been Kristina's favorite verse since she was a child. She was so excited when she found this that she came bursting in my office to show me. That has pretty much sealed it for the both of us. Baby Mia is waiting for us somewhere. God protect Mia today. ~~~ So our process was to begin. As we researched, we found that we must have a Home Study like any and every adoptive couple in the U.S. This would determine our suitability to provide for a child and to protect and care for the child. At the time we were both employed with Liberty University. The ministry that started the university also started the Liberty Godparent home for unwed mothers. Family Life Services of Virginia were located there as well. We contacted them about doing our Home Study. They gave us a huge packet of information to fill out. Though we were excited, the task looked daunting and intrusive. We were started and happy. Mia's birthmother was approximately just over 6 months pregnant with her at this time~~~ June 15, 2003 - I am torn between emotions as I fill out the answers to the endless questions within the home study. Our home study is being done through Family Life Services in Lynchburg, VA. I read these questions that dig deep into the core of my life. I feel like I am on trial to see if I qualify to be worthy as a parent. This feeling is underscored by a feeling of inadequacy as we haven't been able to become parents naturally. I read the news, watch on TV, and even see in my daily life so many parents who take the privilege of parenthood fore granted. I watch hateful attitudes be directed at a child as he or she dares to infringe upon the freedom of the parent. I am enraged that so many who seem to careless that God has given them the gift of a child and yet I, who desperately begs for the opportunity, have to apply for the position. Then I come back to the understanding that there are also many out there who would go through the same process as Krissy and I, not because they want to share their love for a child, but because they are evil and harmful people. So I again go through the process of filling out the paperwork, thankful that there is a system in place designed to protect the children. |
| July 2003 |
Date Posted: 03-01-2005 at 08:58 AM |
| July 13, 2003 - A member of our church has privately told us that she feels led to help us with the cost of the home study. With her help plus the aid that has already been given by our family and friends, we should be able to submit the paperwork for our home study next week some time. We are so very excited. Even though we have been working on the application and the Q&A part of the home study, this makes things feel more official. July 20, 2003 - From gifts given to Union Christian Church, we were presented a check in the amount of $1,000 to go to our adoption fund. We will definitely be able to submit our application for home study tomorrow! July 21, 2003 - Stopped by Family Life Services today. We will have our 1st two home study visits actually at the office. The 3rd and final visit will take place at our house. Our 1st visit will be this Thursday! Sometimes it feels like this process is taking so long, however, most of the time it feels like things are moving so fast! July 24, 2003 - We had our first home study visit today. We met with our case worker at the Family Life Services office. Again it feels like someone is being so intrusive as questions are asked about our lives that only the two of us should know. However, as I have said previously, it is for a good reason. We met for about 1.5 hours before we left. We will meet again next week. July 30, 2003 - Our second home study visit went very well. Again we had to be very in depth in our discussion about our lives. This has become fun and somewhat entertaining as we are forced to rehash old memories. Our case worker has been very good to us and has been very encouraging throughout the process. Kristina and I are very excited as we now only have one more home study visit before it is complete. The next visit will be in about two weeks at our home. |
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