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Part of: How it all began! I was told I should do this... |
Date Posted: 03-23-2006 at 08:17 PM Comments(0) |
| Another reason I even looked into becomeing a foster parent was I was told by several people that I should do it. I said, "single guys don't do that" and someone showed me an article in a magazine about a single guy that did... He adopted a preteen special needs kid... exactly what I'm doing right now! When A was 13 & 14 he had a friend named S who was 12 (2002). S was also quite ADHD and didn't have much. A wanted to do things with him from time to time. I reluctently agreed at first. I liked the kid, but they got so hyper when they were together it wore me out. One day I took the boys go carting or bowling or something and then I took S home. Nobody answered the door when he knocked on it and he got real upset. He wanted to leave with me again... I thought to myself, I don't know this kids parents well, I can't just take him home with me, but he didn't want to be left there... and I really didn't want to just leave him on the curb on the east side of town after dark... I didn't know what to do!! Luckily I still had A with me, so we went on to A's house with S still with us. I ended up calling his grandparents and took him to their place... Now as I look back at it, he knew exactly what his parents were doing, they were making meth... or using it. I know now that was what was so upsetting to him... After that incident, I willingly took S with us a lot more. I learned to like him and didn't like that he was in that situation. When his parents were finally arrested and put in prison, S moved in with the grandparents. They had their hands full with him and I took him from time to time, even overnight... this is when people told me I should become a foster parent. He liked to be with me and I enjoyed having him around. He always commented on my cooking... of course I had to buy him some clothes, as he didn't have much. A became very jealous... but then this was about the time that A met T... A was spending more time with T and S kind of took over the time I had been spending with A... As I look back, it's amazing how things timed out (January/February 2003)... I was never completely overwhelmed... just about the time that S was put into treatment himself (didn't handle parents being in prison, hard time at grandparents, lots of anger, running away, threatening aggression...) at that time A & T told me they were expecting... so with S out of the picture, except for visits, I was then very busy with A & pregnant T. |
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