| Welcome to the Forums. | Register |
| If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ. You may have to register before you can post or search: click here to proceed. To start viewing messages, select a forum below that you would like to view or click View All of Todays Posts. | |
| Forum Categories |
|
Part of: Jen's place to ramble Always the bridesmaid.... |
Date Posted: 12-20-2005 at 11:51 AM Comments(0) |
| Never the bride. Surprisingly, this entry has nothing whatsoever to do with marriage. This saying came to mind last night, when once again, I found another adoptee's birthmom. Don't get me wrong, I am always very happy when I am able to help someone find their birth parents, or a child they had previously relinquished. Out of all the people I have helped, I know of only a couple situations where it did not work out. I have never had a case where the bmom flat out said no. The ones I have dealt with that haven't worked, have unfortunately been doomed by the beasts of alcoholism or drugs. One girl I helped, we discovered that her bmom has been doing crack for over 20 years. The second time this girl talked to her bmom, her bmom had the nerve to ask her for money! She had to cut it off and get her phone number changed. I am happy though, that about 95% of the reunions I've had a part in, have been very happy ones. Now for the "Always the bridesmaid, never the bride" comment. I feel like I am always helping everyone else have good reunions with their families, but yet, my bmom doesn't even talk to me. I wonder when it will be my turn? While many of these searches aren't very hard to do "physically", they take a huge toll on me emotionally. I feel guilty, because I often think, geesh, it's not fair. On another note, I am getting so sick of reading journal entries and posts that are filled with adoptees whining all the time. I think some of them need to stop and see what they do have with their birth families, instead of what they don't have. Is it the end of the world, if someone in your family doesn't see everything how you see it, or doesn't always agree with you? I am not Anti-adoption. However, I do agree that adoption is unnatural. Too many families get torn apart after trying to make sense of something that doesn't have much sense to be gained from it. I would be so happy to even have a bio sibling to argue with! I would be happy to have the "problem" of my bmom calling too much. When you find who you are looking for, be happy, try to be content, because what you have found is something that thousands of other people would so desperately love to have. |
All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:32 PM.
